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Really Important Plans [Jan. 31st, 2006|05:48 am]
Amanda
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Ari and I have been discussing my moving over to NJ a lot sooner than was planned. There are a lot of good reasons for this and I'd greatly welcome it even as early as this summer, but it's still a really big, sudden change that I really need to think over carefully.
His family seems fine with me living over on the other side of their house, which is really nice of them. And, it would be really awesome to actually be with him, for good this time. It would also be wise to figure out if we can handle living together sooner, rather than later (it would really suck to have been together 2.5 years or so, and to have made all these plans, only to find out that we get into arguments over soap or something similarly mundane). And also, to get the hell out of this house and Linda's increasingly downward spiral. Plus, our relationship isn't exactly flourishing under the long-distance conditions (the only thing that is is my cell phone minutes). It's getting increasingly frustrating the more attached to each other we get.

Though, if I do move over there soon it will take a lot of planning. Mainly with my job (will have to see if Matt can transfer me to a B&N over there), school (have to apply to Kean in time, get all the transcripts, get a scholarship/loan/etc), and most importantly, I'LL BE SO FRICKIN' FAR AWAY FROM MY FAMILY. I mean, I knew it would happen soon, but I'm still not relishing telling Mama about this. Or being 3000 miles away.

So yeah: in short, our planning this early move makes me 1) excited/overjoyed/relieved, 2) panicky, 3) think "That's across the country!"(yes, Amanda, I thought you knew this..), and 4) already nostalgic about campus and friends and family and work.
So, this is a great opportunity and I'm really excited. I just need to get used to it and plan things carefully.

Do any of you have thoughts/advice on this?
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[User Picture]From: thedarkcrystal
2006-01-31 01:26 pm (UTC)
I really think that's a great idea. It seems like things will work fine with Ari, but even on the off chance that they don't you're right, it's better to know sooner. And maybe you'll end up liking the area. Mama's depressed about you taking Minuet, but she really will be happier with you again. And I think that's the only downside I can see to it. As long as you promise to still visit.
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[User Picture]From: minuetcat
2006-01-31 06:59 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! I'm glad you do. Sometimes I have a hard time determining if I'm being sensible or not, so it helps to know that you find this decision to be.
Oh, and they pretty much all are allergic to cats over there, so it will probably have to wait awhile longer for Minuet to come live with me. It hurts, but thankfully I know you guys will take really good care of her until I can. I'm glad it should give Mama some solace, at least. With how she's been treating Katy, I thought it would be the other way around. This makes me feel a lot better about not taking her yet though.
Thanks, this comment helped my nerves a lot :)
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[User Picture]From: thedarkcrystal
2006-01-31 08:18 pm (UTC)
Well, she's been keeping Minuet in her room much of the time instead of Katy. Which makes things better between them, but now Katy's feeling misplaced and neglected. But at least she's not being abused anymore.

And I'm glad I was able to be helpful.
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[User Picture]From: rewhite
2006-02-01 05:18 am (UTC)
The cruelest irony is that Mum's a cat person and that both Dad and I like cats almost as well as dogs.
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[User Picture]From: lizzie
2006-01-31 06:29 pm (UTC)

Sorry for posting this here!

Hey, sorry to be posting this in your personal journal, but you're not on aim or yahoo, and this is probably the best way to get in touch with you. Can you please delete the latest post in animal_talk? It's clearly written by a troll and kinda gross.

Thanks!

Elizabeth
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[User Picture]From: minuetcat
2006-01-31 06:45 pm (UTC)

Re: Sorry for posting this here!

Thanks so much for bringing that to my attention! It's deleted, and yeah--it certainly did not belong there.
And no problem at all. My internet time has been sorely reduced as of late--I probably wouldn't have known of this any other way, so really, I don't mind in the least.
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[User Picture]From: lizzie
2006-01-31 06:51 pm (UTC)

Re: Sorry for posting this here!

No problem. :-) Thanks for handling it!
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From: treepatter
2006-01-31 08:23 pm (UTC)
Ask yourself: "What will i do if i move there, and things end up not working out in..??...months, or years."

If you have an answer to that question that is realistic, and acceptable to you, then i say go for it.
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[User Picture]From: minuetcat
2006-02-06 03:19 pm (UTC)
Thank you, and good point! Thankfully I already have in vast detail, and so far the only problem I see is if I'm not able to get enough financial aid. And if it doesn't work out with Ari it really will be hard, but at least I'll be at a university and be able to support myself on my own, financially and academically as well as emotionally.
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From: camillesantiago
2006-01-31 10:55 pm (UTC)
It should be at least smooth and easy, although don't rush into things quite yet some people (like me) cherish what you may all ready have (besides Ari of course ;)).
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[User Picture]From: minuetcat
2006-02-06 03:16 pm (UTC)
lol I know hun, and thank you ;)
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From: ex_la_foret689
2006-02-01 05:07 pm (UTC)
I say think hard on this one
before you make a decision.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you think you're ready to move in with Ari and move across the country and this is what you want then go for it!

However, if the main concern is really getting away from the living situation you are in now, then there are other options where you don't have to leave your school.
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[User Picture]From: minuetcat
2006-02-06 03:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks hun, yeah that was a pretty big concern. I've pretty much decided for sure on it now, and it seems like a sensible choice to me. So yep, I'm going for it! :)
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